Harry Hamlin and Lisa Rinna did not hold back their advice for couples wanting to keep their sex lives from getting stale.
“When you’re married for as long as we have been [or] together as long as we have, there’s a kind of shorthand you develop over the years,” Hamlin, 73, said on the Friday, June 6, episode of his and Rinna’s “Let’s Not Talk About the Husband” podcast.
Hamlin turned to Rinna, 61, asking his wife to share her thoughts on the matter.
“We’ve been together 32 years — that’s a really long time,” she explained. “Through children and through everything, you kind of have to plan it and schedule it. Especially when you [have] kids.”
Rinna shared that she and Hamlin would go to hotels to make sure they got some time to connect one-on-one.
“I think you just have to make time for it and you have to create space for it like everything else,” she said.
Hamlin added that having intimacy is a “big part” of why he and Rinna have been together for more than three decades. However, sex isn’t the only way the pair have maintained a loving bond.
“Intimacy can take a lot of different forms too,” he reflected. “It doesn’t have to be just mucking around all the time … it can be a lot of different things … Rolling in the hay isn’t the only way to show intimacy.”
Rinna added that she and Hamlin also enjoy taking spa getaways and have frequented the Two Bunch Palms spa in Palm Desert throughout their entire relationship. However, the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum acknowledged that every couple is different with their own respective needs.
“I think it’s always so fun to create things like whatever works for you,” she shared. “You wanna do a little dress up, little role-playing, little porn. I don’t know, I think it’s all good.”
Hamlin recalled how Rinna had a nurse costume that was discovered by their children. (The couple, who wed in 1997, share daughters Deliah, 26, and Ameilia, 23.)
Rinna explained that after welcoming Amelia, she started taking a pole dancing class.
“Lucky me!” Hamlin interjected.
While taking the workout class, Rinna had a drawer in their guest bedroom with all of her outfits for the class plus some “big old stripper shoes.” At one point, the pair’s daughters discovered the items.
“They thought it was so funny,” Rinna recalled, “I had a couple [costumes], like a cop, a nurse, lingerie and who knows what’s in there.”
In addition to experimenting, Hamlin added that being “open” with your partner was also a key factor for a successful relationship.
“Ask them what it is they want and how they like it,” he said. “If you can get straight with that you can keep going for a long time.”
